The Athra Bodhi Show: Conversations About Unconventional & Complex Domestic Relationships
The Athra Bodhi Show is your go-to podcast about unconventional and complex domestic relationships. This podcast is based on the ”85-15 Support Group” from the book ”Confusion, Compassion, Confession: A Married Woman’s Dilemma” written by the host of this show, Athra Bodhi. The “85-15 Support Group” is a weekly meeting of women who come together to support each other through their marital dilemmas. Once a month, the women respond letters that are emailed to Athra for the group to address. Authors sign their letter with a color of the chakra system to let Athra and the group know how they are feeling. This group of women range in age from their mid-20’s to their early 60’s. This group of women provide a range of perspectives to help you navigate through the challenges you face in your romantic relationships. Each week Athra and her assistant will read a letter or two and provide responses from the women in the ”85-15”, appearances from people who have experience with the topic, responses from people outside of the group, and discussions with her assistant. Episodes are released at 5:00 am on Tuesday mornings anywhere you get your listen to your podcasts. Send an email with your own dilemmas to athrabodhi@gmail.com. We will have our the ”85-15” to discuss your letter and get their response on the podcast. Remember to sign your letter with a color from the chakra system: Red (root and foundational chakra), Orange (sacral, creative & sexual energy chakra), Yellow (solar plexus, self-esteem & will-power & personal responsibility), Green (heart, governs our relationships), Blue (throat, communication), Indigo (third eye, intuition), and Violet (crown, divine connection).
Episodes
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Getting Myself Together
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One wife is concerned about her husband being mechanical in the bedroom. Another wife is getting herself together, but her husband is feeling threatened by her improvements.
If send an email to athra.bodhi@gmail.com if you would like to send a letter. Also, use the following link to order your copy of Confusion, Compassion, Confession: A Married Woman's Dilemma - https://shop.ingramspark.com/b/084?ctVuqyX91UPNmtaNe7f5RZiwPQygVOqe0cb42nk08p0.
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
Blended Families Challenges
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
A woman who has plans to marry in May is considering changing her mind based on her step-son's behavior. A man has been trying to teach his bonus sons what they need to do to be men but is experiencing pushback from his wife.
You can send your letter to athra.bodhi@gmail.com if you have relationship dilemmas we can help you work through.
Use this link to get your copy of Confusion, Compassion, Confession: A Married Woman's Dilemma: https://shop.ingramspark.com/b/084?aJwnjwGTeCLnQwNDZacbtlVuVOBTkcxzodeIvQtw3bh.
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
Married Less Than a Year
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
The first letter is about a woman who has found her husband's profile on dating and hookup websites. Another woman is trying to figure out what to do about her marriage after finding her husband watching adult content videos.
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Torn Between Ex-Husband and Future Husband
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
A young woman shares her grandmother's house with the her cousins. One violates the living agreement, which has led to potential family problems. In another letter, a divorced woman is torn between the wishes of her ex-husband and those of her fiancé.
You can be submit your letter to Athra or be a guest by emailing her at athrabodhi@gmail. Use the same email to request a guest appearance on your show or any events. Get your copy of Confusion, Compassion, Confession: A Married Woman's Dilemma at your local, independently owned bookstore.
Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
Waiting on God
Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
Athra answers the letter of a woman who wants to understand what it means to wait on God. Athra reminds the woman that today is Mardi Gras, the day before Ash Wednesday. She advises the woman who use the season of lent to connect with God to get answers to her most pressing question.
You can purchase of copy of Confusion, Compassion, Confession: A Married Woman's Dilemma at https://a.co/d/bC1DYGf for a discount during the entire month of March to celebrate Women's History Month. You can also contact Athra at athra.bodhi@gmail.com to be a guest or send a letter.
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Couple's Fun Leads to Questions
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Tee from NAMI helped to unpack this letter.
A couple has been working on their marriage. The husband's job required him to leave home for 3 months. During that time, the next door neighbors help the wife get used to their new home. When the husband returns, his actions causes the wife to question things during a night of fun.
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
Ready to be an Honest Woman
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
A woman with children told her new church family she was married prior to her children's birth. She is feeling convicted because her fiance is refusing to set a wedding date. She is ready to live as an honest woman.
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Betrayed Wife of a Pastor
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Dr. Arthur Leon Tredwell, a pastor, helps unpack the letter of a wife who is being betrayed by her husband with a woman from church. Dr. Tredwell has a great advice to help the wife determine who to move forward with her life.
Get your autographed copy of Confusion, Compassion, Confession: A Married Woman's Dilemma at https://square.link/u/SaeSJMu9. Send your letter to the show at athrabodhi@gmail.com.
You can get in touch with Dr. Tredwell at www.blackqueerandblessed.com.
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
Everybody Knew Except Me
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
Christie Bemis helps unpack a letter from a woman who discovered her husband is on the down low. She learns that he has been his best friend's lover since their days in college. To make matters worse, the other man's wife has been aware for years.
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Hurt Husband
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Christie Bemis of Hot Pink YOUniversity helps Athra unpack the letter from a military husband who recently discovered his wife's infidelity. You visit Christie at www.hotpinkyou.com to join one of her groups or to order her book.
You can reach Athra at athra.bodhi@gmail.com.

The Book That Started It All
Adriana has been married almost seventeen years to Gavin, the perfect man for her. He loved her beyond the pain of her childhood and past relationships; he had given her all she dreamed of in a marriage. Cilicia, Adriana’s best friend, enters Adriana’s sanctuary and disturbs her peace when she reveals her suspicions of their husbands’ infidelity, including the possibility of sex with each other.
Cilicia’s allegations cause Adriana to question her husband and their marriage. Adriana’s experience in her marriage, including her sex life, does not match Cilicia’s accusations. Adriana begins to revisit her past to help her understand how Cilicia’s allegations could be true. That past includes domestic violence when she witnessed mistakenly witness Jamie, her ex-boyfriend, having sex with a man. The violence from that encounter influences how she approaches her dilemma with Gavin.
Cilicia’s bombardment of Adriana’s life with her allegations threatens their friendship and Adriana’s friendship with other people. Cilicia draws Sheraton, the wife of her husband’s business partner, into the drama.
Meanwhile, Cilicia had been struggling in her own marriage for years. Justus’s substance abuse, domestic violence, attraction to men, and refusal to have sex with Cilicia have been issues in their marriage for years. However, Cilicia’s Christian upbringing does not allow her to give up on something so sacred; therefore, she begins to fight for her marriage. Her fight leads her down a dark path and at the brink of death. Adriana fears Cilicia will become a “Lady Lazarus” like her favorite poet.
Cilicia struggles when she learns that people inside her friend circle do not live in traditional marriages. She reflects on her own childhood as memories of her parents’ marriage begin to resurface. Does she want to make the same choices as her mother? How would making those choices impact her daughter’s life?
Adriana reconnects with Athra, a friend from her past who has entered the ministry. Athra helps Adriana and Cilicia work through their martial dilemma and save their friendship. She opens their eyes to another interpretation of verses in the Holy Bible that deal with human sexuality and marriage. Adriana learns about the Kinsey Scale and begins to question her own sexuality.
Athra’s 85-15 Support Group introduces Adriana and Cilicia to a network of women who have encountered similar dilemmas. These women meet to help encourage each other to work through issues in their marriage that the church does not traditionally address, sex. They have come to understand that they have options within their marriages and that the rainbow is enough, even when they have considered suicide. But what exactly does the rainbow represent, and how can it be enough when it seems like there is nothing to hold on to?